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    Sunday, December 19, 2010


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    Wow that is one cute pic at the end. Love the frank breastfeeding writing too.



    Your experience with Elijah is so close to my experience with Claire. I even felt guilty sometimes because it seemed to easy to nurse her.

    And, I am so proud of you for saying NO and not taking any BS this time around. It is SO FRUSTRATING how everything in a hospital is positioned as something without a choice, when in actuality it is ALL YOUR CHOICE.

    The culture is infuriating and it's exacerbated by the fact that it leads to BAD CARE.

    I am so glad that you wrote this. I hope someone find the inspiration to stand up for herself that might not have otherwise. You rock, Manda.


    I struggled to nurse Kalena, mostly due to factors beyond my control. And even though those things were beyond my control, I wanted things to be different with Will. Man oh man, different indeed. He'll be a year next week and he's still nursing before naps and bedtime. It is amazing how different things were the second time around.


    :) So, so happy for you. Nursing, when it all 'works', is wonderful. And now, think of it this way, when Syd has her first( :o ), you know what to tell her, and how to help her avoid what you went through with her.
    Love you, Manda.


    I saw many LCs while in the hospital after my daughter was born. While I'm not sure how much any of them actually helped - I mostly remember being told to "gather up a handful of boob and shove it in her mouth" - we got it figured out. When an LC walked into my room after my son was born, I told her I'd nursed my first baby just fine was confident I could do it again. She looked at me condescendingly and said, "Well, all babies are DIFFERENT, you know." Well, thank you Captain Obvious, but that doesn't convince me you know how to feed my kid better than I do. I just smiled politely and told her if I needed any help, I would ask for it. And that was the last time I laid eyes on her.

    Anyway, I said all that to say this: Women, especially first-time moms, kind of get the hose when it comes to childbirth/post-natal care. Good for you for taking charge and getting what both you and Elijah needed.


    I am officially sending this post to every pregnant woman I know. Wonderful post with some wonderful guidance.

    P.s. I love, love, love Elijah's cheeks. Precious!


    Wish this post had been around a couple years ago! I struggled with nursing with my first c-section baby (no thanks to the nipple shield which was given to me on day 1.5 in the hospital) and only lasted three weeks in total. Also no one told me I could be written a prescription for a GOOD pump, so I went to Babies R Us with no idea what to get, shrugged my shoulders, and bought a pump that was totally wrong for me and did nothing but completely frustrate me. With my 2nd (also c-section) baby, which was 13 months later, I felt psyched to try again but between the CONSTANT interruptions (our hospital is a teaching hospital and so you as a patient are plagued with people wanting you to participate in studies and students wanting to try taking vitals on your baby, etc.) and clashing nurses/LC opinions, I felt muddled and confused and again went to the nipple shield on about the 3rd day. Nursing lasted two very emotional weeks. Didn't help that I had little support from family -- my mother, mother in law, sister, sister in law, aunts -- NO ONE nursed and they all encouraged me to give it up since they could see I was upset about how it was going. So I did. I wish so badly I could try it all over again when I read stuff like this. WHY WHY WHY does someone not pull you aside at your OB's office and say, "ok, here's what you need to arm yourself against the hospital?" No offense to (some of) the wonderful nurses I saw, but they have a schedule and lots of patients and charts to update, so they are not always the best listeners or the most intuitive when I was having trouble, and my part in this is that I am not the best at communicating when I need help or feeling comfortable enough to publicly disagree with the "experts." Thanks again for this info, if I have a 3rd things will be different!


    oh and your son is ADORABLE. Adorable.


    I had much the same experience with the nipple shield and despite what they say.. Shield DO effect milk supply and babies DON'T get enough milk. We found out my son was malnourished at 2 mons and I was devastated. I'm still totally effed up in the head over it. He is 10 mons and still nursing. I have to pump at least 2x a day to keep my supply up because the shield inhibited my supply early on. I am so happy to read your story of next time -

    I love nursing, it has empowered me in ways I never imagined. I know things will be better next time.


    Good one, dude.

    (I had a great hospital experience and a dream-scenario with the whole nursing thing--20 months! woah!--but this is important for women to read regardless of their feeding situations because it applies to so many other things as well. Nicely done.)


    How I wish I would have read this before my first son was born (via c-section). And it's not just your fabulous breastfeeding, skin-to-skin, etc. advice--it's also the empowering way that you give this advice!

    I'll definitely be sharing this: especially with women planning a cesarean section.


    Sorry you had that experience the first time. I am an lc and can tell you that I don't agreecwith the imprint thing. Nice theory but not really true. Sometimes, but extremely rarely a shield is necessary to get a latch. I'd say you first child was affected by your prolonged induction and the drugs you were given.
    What is do notice is you became a better consumer of health care services and as a second time mother just knew what to do.
    Again, I am sorry things worked out that way the first time.

    Twisted Cinderella

    I hope you had a lovely Christmas!


    Wow.. this is fan-freaking-tastic! I am going to make sure to read and re-read this before I have a baby. Thanks for sharing your experiences. And for helpin' a sister out. :)


    Seriously, great post. I had nipple shield latching issues with my girl and had similar anxiety about my son but he latched on like it was his business, thankfully.

    In retrospect, we too felt bullied with our first labor and delivery. Like you said, you just don't know. This post should be a must read for first time moms.

    Glad you are all doing well. And Elijah is such a little cutie boy!

    Twisted Cinderella

    I hope you had a lovely Christmas and a Happy New Years! Here's to a fabulous new year!


    Rock on. Good for you, making things work the second time around! I, too, had my share of issues (and inept consultants and nurses) in the hospital. That's part of the reason I got my CLE. I'm looking forward to being my own consultant next time around :)

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